Heartbreaker Hair

I’ve written a few times about learning how to do Buggy’s hair, and I have to say I am proud of how well I’ve been doing recently.  I try new styles about once a week and even if they’re not 100% successful (aka fuzzy by morning) it’s fun.  For the most part Buggy is patient with me.  I set her up with her i pad or put on Daniel Tiger and let her hold the baggie of elastics and hand them to me when I need them.  But sometimes, she’s not so patient.  Sometimes, she struggles with sitting still and  gets mad if there’s tangles in her hair.

Last night for the first time though, she said she hated her hair.  I was heartbroken.  I love her curls.  I love that her hair is so soft, and that it gets fuzzy when it’s humid out.  I think she looks adorable even when her hair is a hot mess and it made me sad to hear her say she hates her hair.  To make it worse, she started combing her hand through my hair and said “I like your hair mommy”.  I just hugged her close and said “And I love your hair.  We both have nice hair, baby”  We spent the next few minutes snuggled up on the couch with her small fingers wrapping their way through my hair and mine through hers.

When I went to tuck her in to bed she told me again that she likes my hair, and I said again that we both have beautiful hair.  I hope that she learns to love her hair like I do.  It is beautiful, and although I am sure it probably hurts when I try to comb the tangles out of it, it looks so cute when it’s all done up



Curly Girl

As someone with stick straight hair, I never really had to try hard to “do” my hair.  I could easily brush through it, put it in a pony tail, pig tails, or braid it.  I’m also lucky that on the rare occasion that I pull out the curling iron, I don’t have to use a ton hairspray to get the curls to stay.  Actually, the more hairspray I use the sooner the curls tend to come out (I think it may be because the weight of the spray is pulling the curls down).  People are often envious of my natural blond highlights and nearly every time I go to a new salon I am told that people pay good money for my hair color.  I’d consider myself lucky in the hair department – I don’t need special conditioner, I don’t have to spend hours straightening my hair, or use any gel, hair spray or other expensive products to get my hair to stay how I want it.

As a mom of a biracial child whose African roots show themselves in her beautifully curly locks, I am not as lucky.  It takes a solid 30 minutes or more to comb through Buggy’s unruly hair, and another 15 to get some lopsided pig tails – the only style I’m actually decent at.  Recently, I’ve been attempting to branch out and try different hairstyles on my little princess.  Here are some of my more (and less!) successful attempts.


The 5 little puffs look


The one ponytail with giant bow style


Two pig tails


The “my daddy did my hair today” pony tail.


Multiple pig tails braided


The every day fro

The one tip that I can pass on to other moms (and dad’s) came from a good friend of mine.  She  recently suggested I comb Buggy’s hair when she’s in the bath (or shower).  I don’t know why I never thought of that before – but it’s like magic!  I now wash her hair then put conditioner in it and give her a few bath crayons.  She colors the tub walls while I comb the conditioner through her hair.  Then a quick rinse with the detachable shower head and she’s good to go.  When wet and combed out, Buggy’s hair reaches down between her shoulder blades!  It’s beautiful, and she’s taken to shaking her head side to side to feel her perfect little curls bounce around her face and neck.

I still struggle to get her fluffy locks under control, and the humidity of the south is definitely not in her favor, but the longer it gets and the more times I practice the better I get, and the tougher her scalp gets! 

Bad Hair Days

I have stick straight, medium length, medium-thick, blonde hair.  Whenever I go to a new salon the hairdresser always tells me never to dye my hair because people pay big money for my color blonde.  Living in the south my hair gets a lot of natural highlights from the sun and since moving here and I have gotten a few nice haircuts, complete with compliments from the hairdresser  However, back in the day I had some very interesting haircuts and hairdos.  Here is a sampling of my hair styles: from white-blond baby hair, to rocking the mullet, to crimps, braids and curls my hair and I have been through a lot!

baby teenhat teen mullethalf braids Crimpy Hair bo derek hairteen curly

Buggy, on the other hand, has thick, curly, dark brown hair.  I was actually surprised that she was born with a full head of hair because all through my pregnancy people told me if you have heartburn your baby will have hair, and I never had a single day of heartburn.  Anyway, as she has grown her hair has gotten curlier and now it is out of control!  My husband isn’t in to hairdos like he is to picking out her outfits, so whenever he wakes up with her first she either has wild hair or a headband on.  I like to put her hair into ponytails or pigtails, partly because it looks cute and partly because I can’t stand the frizz she gets in the humidity.  I also recently tried a product called Hip Peas Curl Tamer, which transforms her frizzy, crazy, puffy hair into adorable little (manageable) ringlets.  And now for some fabulous Buggy hair photos, here she is rocking pig tails, 4 puffs, her natural hair, and some sort of mohawk!

pig tails4 pig tailswild hair  mohawck

I am sure I will need a lesson or two (or three) from my mother-in-law on how to do my daughter’s hair when she gets older.  I can only imagine how tight the curls are going to get and how hard brushing her hair will become.  Now that my husband is transitioning into the role of stay at home dad perhaps he could use a lesson in little girl hair care too?

And just in case you are as sad as I am about the World Cup ending last week, here’s a list of the all hair team!